#89 Gaslighting is a Myth

This episode explores gaslighting and its impact on both men and women. Sam comes back on the pod and we struggle to offer up some solutions to gaslighting. Have a better one? Email it to UnravelingPink@gmail.com or tweet it to @UnravelingPink.

Resources in this episode:

Gaslight movie excerpt (1944).
Oxford English Dictionary.
“Situations in Which Men Gaslight Women.”
“4 Levels of Gaslighting.”
Suzannah Weiss, Bustle, 2018 “7 Subtle Ways Women Are Gaslighted On A Daily Basis.”
Wanda Thibodeaux, Inc., “A Narcissist at Work can kill your Confidence.”
Janet Coburn, TheMighty.com “Men Can Be Victims of Gaslighting Too.”

#88 Familiarity As The Antidote To Objectification

This week’s episode explores objectification of women – why it happens, how it impacts women, and what we can do about it. This week, can you notice the subtle – or not so subtle – ways objectification happens around you?

Resources in this episode:

ABC News Hot Button Episode
A Call To Men “What Is the Man Box.”
Robin Tran, “4 Ways Men Are Taught to Objectify Women From Birth.”
Ed Yong, 2010, “How Objectification Silences Women: the Male Glance as a Psychological Muzzle.”
Derrick Jensen, Huffington Post, “The Man Box and The Cult of Masculinity.”
Blackburn Center, 5/2018, “Breaking Out of the Man Box.”

#87 Speaking Up When Bias Rears Its Ugly Head

This week’s episode dives into why well-meaning male allies might not speak up even when they know they should. The reason surprised me, and it might surprise you too. But what probably won’t surprise you is that it is tied to the “man box.”

This episode’s resources:

Terry Crews video (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)
Francesca Gino, Harvard Business Review, 5/2018, “Why It’s So Hard to Speak Up Against a Toxic Culture.” (https://hbr.org/2018/05/why-its-so-hard-to-speak-up-against-a-toxic-culture)
David Smith and Brad Johnson, “Do You See What I See? The Importance of Men as Allies.” (http://behavioralscientist.org/see-see-importance-men-allies/)
Lisa Hickey, A Good Men Project, “Men Know: Why Men Need to Start Talking About Violence and Sexual Harassment.” (https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/men-know-men-need-start-talking-violence-sexual-harassment/)
Jim Walsh, “Silence is violence: A Call To Men conference encourages men to speak out against sexist behavior.” (https://www.minnpost.com/arts-culture/2017/09/silence-violence-call-men-conference-encourages-men-speak-out-against-sexist-be/)
Daniele Selby, “11 Famous Men Who Fought for Women’s Rights This Year.” (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)

#86 Can Masculinity Be Redefined?

This week’s episode looks at the harm both men and women suffer from traditional definitions of masculinity – that is, the “man box” – and the ways both men and women would benefit from redefining masculinity. Times have changed, can our collective expectations of masculinity change as well? It’s not clear that seismic change will happen any time soon, but younger generations are providing hope for incremental change, that eventually will provide men with access to a fuller version of masculinity.

Resources in this episode:

USA Today article by Alia Datagir, “Men pay a steep price when it comes to masculinity.”
Time article by Jack Myers, “Young Men Are Facing a Masculinity Crisis.”
Emily Moon, 1/11/2019 article, “No, Psychologists Aren’t ‘Declaring War’ on Traditional Masculinity.”
Monica Hesse, 1/12/2019 Washington Post article, “How ‘traditional masculinity’ hurts the men who believe in it most.”
Samantha Schmidt, Washington Post, “Meet the teenagers who started a feminist club at their all-boys school.”
Video on Toxic Masculinity

#85 Let Me Explain Something

This episode explores the intersection of the man box and mansplaining and includes a special guest to share the male perspective of why mansplaining happens, and what we might do to shut it down.

Resources in this episode:

“Male Coworkers Were Asking This Woman Whether They Were ‘Mansplaining’, So She Created A Chart“
Rebecca Solnit, 4/13/2008 LA Times, “Men who explain things.”
Elizabeth Aura McClintock, PhD, Psychology Today, “The Psychology of Mansplaining.”
Mark Greene, “A fear-based need to project competency is at the core of mansplaining. But you already knew that.”
Luke O’Neil, Mel Magazine, “The Snowflake Diaries: Mansplaining to Other Men.”
Jill Krasny, Inc., “Why Men Mansplain, Explained.”
Washington Post, “Pelosi’s calm stands out in Trump, Schumer oval office meeting“

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#89 Gaslighting is a Myth

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#86 Can Masculinity Be Redefined?

#85 Let Me Explain Something