#90 Life is About Connecting

Well, that was awkward… How often does an interaction with someone trigger that response? In this episode, Sam and I explore the concept of personal boundaries, with Joe Biden as a convenient jumping off point. We come at it from different perspectives and end up with different approaches, which shows just how unique and individual this question is for everyone. How do you approach the personal boundaries of those around you?

Resources in this episode:

Joe Biden video
Simon Worrall, 1/20/18, “You Need Your Personal Space—Here’s the Science Why
Your brain uses it to protect you.”
Sara G. Miller, LiveScience, 10/13/16, “Debate 2016: What Goes on in Your Brain When People Invade Your Personal Space? We lack control over our reactions when somebody gets too close.”

#89 Gaslighting is a Myth

This episode explores gaslighting and its impact on both men and women. Sam comes back on the pod and we struggle to offer up some solutions to gaslighting. Have a better one? Email it to UnravelingPink@gmail.com or tweet it to @UnravelingPink.

Resources in this episode:

Gaslight movie excerpt (1944).
Oxford English Dictionary.
“Situations in Which Men Gaslight Women.”
“4 Levels of Gaslighting.”
Suzannah Weiss, Bustle, 2018 “7 Subtle Ways Women Are Gaslighted On A Daily Basis.”
Wanda Thibodeaux, Inc., “A Narcissist at Work can kill your Confidence.”
Janet Coburn, TheMighty.com “Men Can Be Victims of Gaslighting Too.”

#88 Familiarity As The Antidote To Objectification

This week’s episode explores objectification of women – why it happens, how it impacts women, and what we can do about it. This week, can you notice the subtle – or not so subtle – ways objectification happens around you?

Resources in this episode:

ABC News Hot Button Episode
A Call To Men “What Is the Man Box.”
Robin Tran, “4 Ways Men Are Taught to Objectify Women From Birth.”
Ed Yong, 2010, “How Objectification Silences Women: the Male Glance as a Psychological Muzzle.”
Derrick Jensen, Huffington Post, “The Man Box and The Cult of Masculinity.”
Blackburn Center, 5/2018, “Breaking Out of the Man Box.”

#87 Speaking Up When Bias Rears Its Ugly Head

This week’s episode dives into why well-meaning male allies might not speak up even when they know they should. The reason surprised me, and it might surprise you too. But what probably won’t surprise you is that it is tied to the “man box.”

This episode’s resources:

Terry Crews video (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)
Francesca Gino, Harvard Business Review, 5/2018, “Why It’s So Hard to Speak Up Against a Toxic Culture.” (https://hbr.org/2018/05/why-its-so-hard-to-speak-up-against-a-toxic-culture)
David Smith and Brad Johnson, “Do You See What I See? The Importance of Men as Allies.” (http://behavioralscientist.org/see-see-importance-men-allies/)
Lisa Hickey, A Good Men Project, “Men Know: Why Men Need to Start Talking About Violence and Sexual Harassment.” (https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/men-know-men-need-start-talking-violence-sexual-harassment/)
Jim Walsh, “Silence is violence: A Call To Men conference encourages men to speak out against sexist behavior.” (https://www.minnpost.com/arts-culture/2017/09/silence-violence-call-men-conference-encourages-men-speak-out-against-sexist-be/)
Daniele Selby, “11 Famous Men Who Fought for Women’s Rights This Year.” (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)

#86 Can Masculinity Be Redefined?

This week’s episode looks at the harm both men and women suffer from traditional definitions of masculinity – that is, the “man box” – and the ways both men and women would benefit from redefining masculinity. Times have changed, can our collective expectations of masculinity change as well? It’s not clear that seismic change will happen any time soon, but younger generations are providing hope for incremental change, that eventually will provide men with access to a fuller version of masculinity.

Resources in this episode:

USA Today article by Alia Datagir, “Men pay a steep price when it comes to masculinity.”
Time article by Jack Myers, “Young Men Are Facing a Masculinity Crisis.”
Emily Moon, 1/11/2019 article, “No, Psychologists Aren’t ‘Declaring War’ on Traditional Masculinity.”
Monica Hesse, 1/12/2019 Washington Post article, “How ‘traditional masculinity’ hurts the men who believe in it most.”
Samantha Schmidt, Washington Post, “Meet the teenagers who started a feminist club at their all-boys school.”
Video on Toxic Masculinity

Unraveling Pink

Tackling gender bias at work

#90 Life is About Connecting

#89 Gaslighting is a Myth

#88 Familiarity As The Antidote To Objectification

#87 Speaking Up When Bias Rears Its Ugly Head

#86 Can Masculinity Be Redefined?